I just read this article, and it really got the ol’ brain going…
As someone who’s grown up fat for, like, ever, I can tell you that there are people out there who think they know us better than we know ourselves. They think they have the magic cure that will make us fit into the molds they have made for us. Through their eyes we are lazy slobs who lack discipline, which is funny because from where I’m standing they look like bigoted strangers with no filter between their brains and their mouths.
But the thing that gets me going… the thing that has always bothered me is, why do they even give a fuck? Why is it so important for people to police how others live. What makes a stranger so sure that they can correctly assess that another person is too fat/thin/white/brown/tall/short/queer/straight/confident to make their own decisions? I mean, sure, Mom being concerned for your health is one thing, but having some stranger judgmentally eye your cart at the grocery is a whole other deal. Why? Why are you even paying attention to me in the first place?
If you want to be an ambassador of good health, that’s fine! Exercise, work out, develop healthy recipes, and put it up on your blog for others to seek out. But don’t then go onto other blogs and start telling people how they need to run their lives. It’s bad manners, and honestly I just don’t understand why one would spend so much time in their life cultivating negativity. You sound as smart as the person who, in 2015, still feels the need to inform smokers that smoking is unhealthy (you know who hears this fact more than anyone else? Smokers!) I guarantee that stranger you decide to judge isn’t living for you, anyway!
It just really gets my goat that people not only think it’s ok, but that it’s their goddamn duty to preach their opinion as fact. If we could spend half the time addressing bigotry as we do on policing fat bodies, I think the world would be a much better place.
I know this is just me preaching my opinion, but you came here to read it. So like, can we give it a try?