So Did the Fat Lady

Recently I’ve been getting caught up on one of my favorite TV shows, Louie. I love this show because it has lasting power… I’m thinking of it long after I’m done with the episode. One such episode was called So Did the Fat Lady, and is summarized on Netflix as so,

“Louie is reluctant to go out with a likeable waitress at the Comedy Cellar because of her weight”

It sat in my head, rolling around like a katamari, collecting thoughts. Then I read this article entitled, How to Come to Terms with Your Attraction to Fat Girls, which had been posted to my Facebook timeline by both The Militant Baker and Fat Fancy. Underneath it, Facebook suggested I might like clip of the last scene of So Did the Fat Lady, which was totes accurate.

One of the things that really struck me watching it the first time, is that this whole scene is written by Louie CK who, it turns out, is not a fat chick. As a result I was both irritated to have the words shoved in my mouth while simultaneously feeling like he got it. Sarah Baker‘s delivery is what ultimately won me over. I believed that she was that strong, frustrated, beautiful woman who was pushed to the brink to say that the fat isn’t her problem, because she doesn’t see it as a problem… it’s other people who see it as a problem.

Well, she blames men, with Louie as their representative, for the fear of a fat women. I would consider them a definite contributor, I’m not so sure it’s gender specific. Personally, I feel much more pressure to keep up my appearance when I know there will be other women around. However, it wasn’t until I was typing that sentence that I realized it’s because in our culture women are born into an inescapable competition with other women. Unconsciously there’s always the need to at least be in the running as the hottest babe in the room. And fuck if that isn’t exhausting.

In any case, I have to admit that I’m really fond of seeing this kind of piece from a white, cisgendered male. As I have been learning, lately, it’s important for the privileged to speak up for the disenfranchised, and this is a step in the right direction. I would have been happier, however, if he continued to date her throughout another episode or two… politics aside, I just really like the actress. Here’s hoping to seeing a lot more of her like freakin’ everywhere.

What do you think of the clip?

5 thoughts on “So Did the Fat Lady

  1. oledphatnuglee

    I think he’s fatter than she is? Ha ha setting that aside, I think people can’t really help who they are attracted to? Soooo, it’s not really fair to attack them for not feeling attracted to a specific body size. I think it’s true that men who are naturally attracted to bigger women are often picked on and even publicly shamed for choosing to be with a larger woman. Takes a confident man to follow his heart. Takes a confident woman to embrace who she is and enjoy life even when society is quietly judging her unworthy. Our society is generally much more accepting of men who are overweight than they are of overweight women. I think it’s simple to say that it isn’t fair or that it shouldn’t be that way but changing who we are as a people never happens overnight. This issue is buried deeply in our collective psyche and rooting it out is the work of generations. I don’t think our society has any desire to change the fat phobia. As a matter of fact I think it will worsen with time as health care costs continue to rise it will not surprise me at all when they begin to penalize anyone who is overweight.

    1. I’m not trying to change who people are attracted to. I just want to be part of the movement that erases the stigma that prevents people for following their hearts.

      I think we can make huge progresses against fat phobia, if people work for it and continue to educate each other. The only real reason weight has a significant impact on health care costs is because doctors chose to make it an issue… weight and health don’t exactly have the strongest correlation. I’d write that all out for you, but Linda Bacon has already done that for me here: http://lindabacon.org/HAESbook/pdf_files/HAES_Manifesto.pdf

  2. Erin

    “Personally, I feel much more pressure to keep up my appearance when I know there will be other women around.” This, this, a thousand times this.

    I am so glad you’re writing.

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